In part 1 of the Rule, the context for success How Successful People Think: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life New Price: $5.80 Old Price: $10.00You Save: $4.20 (as of 03/28/2017 19:31 UTC) was outlined. However, in part 2 we’re going deeper, by focusing on your social skills The Social Skills Guidebook: Manage Shyness, Improve Your Conversations, and Make Friends, Without Giving Up Who You Are New Price: $13.95 Old Price: $19.95You Save: $6.00 (as of 03/28/2017 19:31 UTC) as a catalyst for personal achievement Napoleon Hill's Keys to Personal Achievement: An Official Publication of The Napoleon Hill Foundation New Price: $11.63 Old Price: $15.99You Save: $4.36 (as of 03/28/2017 19:31 UTC) .
This is a vital step, because when it comes to growth, far too many people are hamstrung by social inadequacy.
People want the “good life”, but usually lack the emotional and social development Social Development New Price: $203.86 (as of 03/28/2017 19:31 UTC) necessary for success.
They misguidedly believe doing what everyone else does, being a die-hard conformist (e.g. getting an education, a job and finding a like-minded significant other), are the keys the secret code to living the American Dream.
But if everyone is taking this approach, why isn’t everyone successful?
Clearly, it’s time for some eye opening truth.
“Circumstances” and “things” will not give you the deep understanding that comes from self-acceptance Self-Acceptance: The Key to Recovery from Mental Illness New Price: $16.59 Old Price: $24.95You Save: $8.36 (as of 03/28/2017 19:31 UTC) .
And this is where your ability to interact effectively with others begins.
Far more significant than a college degree and the “look” of a go-getter, is your ability to comprehend reality and apply impeccable interpersonal skills.
If there is a secret to success, it’s the fact that getting along with people is a must.
The application of your social expertise breaks down as follows:
These categories, while appearing pedestrian, are developed and manifested only in proportion to your self-control The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do to Get More of It New Price: $12.09 Old Price: $17.00You Save: $4.91 (as of 03/28/2017 19:31 UTC) .
I don’t mean the clinched fist kind control that might feel good, but gets marginal results.
No, I’m talking about awareness Awareness: The Perils and Opportunities of Reality New Price: $10.09 Old Price: $15.00You Save: $4.91 (as of 03/28/2017 19:32 UTC) , having a clear understanding of reality and looking at yourself honestly.
Further, control has nothing to do with others. Like everything else of substance, it starts at home. If you can’t control yourself, you certainly cannot influence others.
Ultimately, you must move past the “words” on the above chart. These are simply points of reference, not feelings. Only you can bring the emotional “heat,” coupled with intuition and social skills The Social Skills Guidebook: Manage Shyness, Improve Your Conversations, and Make Friends, Without Giving Up Who You Are New Price: $13.95 Old Price: $19.95You Save: $6.00 (as of 03/28/2017 19:32 UTC) , that fuel ambition and create success.
In short, it’s your responsibility to master all of the criteria listed above.
This is the elusive “big step” forward you’ve been seeking, and the key to getting everything you want in life.